I’m Trying To Find The Right Words

August 5, 2017 — 64 Comments

I have five different drafts for this blog post. One draft is like a novel, the other drafts are just a few short paragraphs.

I keep trying to find just the right words.

Some really really great things have happened this year and some really really crappy things have happened as well. Moving my mom’s cousin into the nursing home in February wore on me both emotionally and physically. The moving, the decisions, the second guessing, the visiting, and the new responsibility were all things that I was never quite certain that I was taking care of in the right way. Then one day out of the blue, she became ill. Nine days later, she was gone. The responsibilities that followed her death left me feeling a bit overwhelmed. From moving her out of her apartment into the nursing home at the beginning of February to her death at the end of June was a lot emotionally and physically. While I felt like I was holding it all together on the outside, my insides were in knots. I could feel my anxiety creeping higher and higher and I just kept thinking……breathe.

Between the day that Anna Lee passed and the day that we had her service, I discovered a lump in my left breast. I was putting on lotion after a shower. The following day all I could think about was “What will I say at Anna Lee’s funeral?”, and “Should I have this lump checked out?”. Three days after the service I went to the doctor. The doctor suggested that I have a mammogram, even though my mammogram in January of this year was fine. At the mammogram they decided to also do an ultrasound. After reading the mammogram and the ultra sound the doctor came in and said that I should have a biopsy.

On Tuesday, July 18th, I had a biopsy. I spent the next three days wondering if I had breast cancer and breathing really deep to chill out.

On Friday, July 21st, the doctor called to tell me that I did in fact have breast cancer. I think I knew it when I found the lump. 

I can’t believe I found the lump! I’m not great at putting lotion on after a shower, but I did that day. I felt the lump towards the top of my left breast. I knew that I hadn’t felt that lump before, and I also knew that they always say, if it feels unusual, have it checked out. I am SO glad that I did! Had I waited until my mammogram next January, this might be a whole different blog post.

I’ve had several appointments already and I have more appointments ahead before surgery. I will be having a double mastectomy with reconstructive surgery before the end of this month. The date is not on the calendar yet, but should be soon.

I have Invasive Ductal Carcinoma, Stage I. It is very treatable and I am going to be just fine. In the world of cancer, I’m truly one of the lucky ones.

Because I was diagnosed at the age of 50 and because my maternal grandmother had breast cancer in her 50’s, my insurance will pay a large portion of the cost for genetic testing. I should have those results in two weeks. I’ll talk about that more in a later post if necessary.

Please have your annual mammograms, and remind the other women in your lives to do the same. Pay attention to your body. If you are suspicious, take that time to check things out. It could make all of the difference in the world. I know so many people right now with different types of cancer, and this is one cancer that we can find early and treat, so please take advantage of those mammograms and take the time once in a while to do a self breast exam. I admit that I have not done them often, but I had done them just often enough that when I felt the lump in my breast, I knew that it was unusual.

I’m feeling good about things but also very anxious. Breathing really does help.

I think I’m more worried right now about Mike than I am about having breast cancer. With my news and now the kids house flooding, I know he is wondering what is next.

I did promise him that I could give a rats ass about the master bedroom remodel and if we look at the unfinished celling above the tub and shower for years, I won’t care. lol

This is why Tess came in over the weekend. She needed to see that mom is mom and I look and feel just like I always do.

I worry about getting the kids house finished from the flood before I have surgery and I will admit, I’m feeling super stressed that won’t happen. I don’t want them to feel like they have to go anywhere else while I recover before their house is ready for them to move back in. Can you imagine the stress they are feeling?

So, those are the words I’ve been struggling with, but there a few decisions I wanted to make before blogging about things.

My stress factor is obviously high these last three weeks and I’ve tried to stick to my healthy eating habits but walking has fallen to the bottom of the priority list.

I am so glad that I’ve changed so much of the foods that I eat. I feel like a strong and healthy person, and I know that will make recovery after surgery that much easier.

I would imagine that I’ll be back to blogging daily up until surgery if I can find the time. Remember we do have a houseful right now so we are just taking things one day at a time and I never really know what each day will bring. Yesterday Mike had a flat tire. Today, Kate had a flat tire. I think I’ll stick to the kayak!

I’ve had a couple of little melt downs, but I really am feeling good about things, especially when I think about how different this blog post could have been had I not found the lump.

“love the life you live, live the life you love”

julesfarm@yahoo.com

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64 responses to I’m Trying To Find The Right Words

  1. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    I am so happy to hear that you are 15 years out! I am hearing so many stories of early detection so I hope to be able to remind ladies to have their annual mammograms and that they all listen.

    Thank you for your prayers and thoughts Karen.

    I’ll keep on blogging through it all.

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  2. I had BC too; I’m 15 years out now, fortunate that it was picked up in a routine mammogram. I was diagnosed the week that the news reported that HRT (hormone replacement therapy) was causing some to get cancer…bingo…I was taking HRT. If it means anything I breezed right through it, not saying that there weren’t difficult times but in the scheme of things I was very fortunate. I’ll be thinking and praying for you. Listen to your body and take care of yourself before anything else. Best of luck to you.

  3. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:38 pm

    Thanks for reading Tammo. I promise to always keep it real. Thanks for appreciating the honesty and sticking with me through my ups and downs.

    I really do got this!

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  4. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:37 pm

    Hi Barbara.

    I am so glad that your sister paid attention to the difference that she saw in the mirror. I’m thinking about how to make this blog regularly remind ladies to get regular exams but also keep this about Weight Watchers and living the healthiest life possible.

    I am also very happy to hear that you are a WW member! I love my WW buddies and WW sisters!

    Thank you for your prayers and love and strength from Tennessee!!

    Hugs to you!

  5. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    It really is a crappy year, and I really am trying to keep a sense of humor about it all and focus on the good stuff, but geeesh!!

    Thank you for your prayers!!

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  6. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:30 pm

    Thank you for the prayers Donnia. I happily accept them all!

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    Hugs!

  7. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    Beth. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! So happy you are a survivor and I know I join you in that and thank you for such a positive message to me. I loved every sentence of this comment!!

    Big hugs and smiles to you!

  8. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:27 pm

    Hi Sherri. Love hearing stories of others that have had the same surgery and are doing great. Thank you for sharing your daughters story with me and thank you for your prayers!

  9. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    Thank you for your prayers Renee and thank you for sharing that your mom had breast cancer last year. It amazes me to find out just how common it is!

    Take care!

  10. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:20 pm

    Thank you for your prayers Wilma. You are the second person that has told me when the other breast was removed that they found cancer in that second breast as well, so I do feel good about my decision. You are right, it is personal one and it is a difficult decision to make.

    I am so glad you are 62 and healthy!! And a Lifetime member!! Great job!

    Thanks for reaching out to me to share your story and thank you for your prayers.

    Hugs to you.

  11. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 1:17 pm

    Thank you Annamay. I really do consider myself to be an optimist so I’m sticking with that positive attitude! Thanks for sticking with me and the blog for so long!

    Hugs!

  12. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:51 am

    Thank you Karen. I feel so bad that I’m not blogging regularly! lol. I will get back at it and thank you for sticking with me!

    I accept your prayers and I thank you for them.

    Julie

  13. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:50 am

    Thank you Carol. In 7.5 years, I will say the same thing!

    Hugs to you!

  14. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:49 am

    Oh my gosh. I love you too Cyndy!! You are the sweetest.

  15. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:48 am

    Thank you for commenting Laura. I am so glad you are feeling well so soon after surgery! I have heard that radiation can be difficult and tiring. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

  16. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:45 am

    Thank you so much Lee Bell!

  17. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:44 am

    Oh Michelle, you are just too sweet and I am so sorryvfor what you and your husband must be going through.

    We have had our share of crap this year, but I know that nothing can compare to your challenges.

    Thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to comment. It does mean a great deal to me.

    Hugs to you!

  18. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:37 am

    Thank you Kathy! Thank you for commenting and letting me know that you’re out there and thank you for reading! I love hearing from readers!

    I know I have a long few weeks ahead, but I also do know that I am lucky here.

    I am feeling the love and thank you for that too!

  19. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:33 am

    Laurie, Thank you so much for commenting. I am so sorry that you lost your mom to ovarian cancer. The doctor said that if I do carry the gene, then my mom having a hysterectomy in her 40’s (assuming she carries the gene) greatly reduced her risk of breast cancer! I had no knowledge of any of this genetic testing and cancer genes before three weeks ago.

    I’m curious to receive the genetic test back. Scared but curious at the same time.

    Thank you so much for your email. If I have questions, I will definitely email you!

    Hugs to you!

    Julie

  20. julesfarm@yahoo.com August 8, 2017 at 3:27 am

    Thanks for sticking with me for so long Latiffany! You are always so sweet and I greatly appreciate your support!

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